I Shan’t

Shall I attend or not?

Official graduation ceremonies of the Ateneo Graduate School of which the Masters program I was enrolled in is part of will be held in August. There was a slight interest when the date was finally announced. I would be free that week.

And then I read the full message; there was a rehearsal the week before which graduates had to attend. And a few days before the rehearsal, the graduates had to be measured for the toga and pay for grad fees etc.

Before I learned of the toga measurements and the rehearsal, I was torn.But after reading the complete schedule,it took me less than 10 minutes to decide I will skip my graduation ceremony.

The point of enrolling in the masters program has been met. I gained new knowledge and new perspectives. There is nobody I need to impress since I head our own company. I also see no need to hang my diploma to impress our bankers and suppliers; the people who visit me in my office. There are no parents who feel the need to show off their child’s accomplishments. My husband doesn’t care. My children are non-plussed. My brother doesn’t care.

Therefore, I see no need to wear a toga and receive a piece of paper from the Dean of the Ateneo Graduate School. The degree means nothing. It is the knowledge I gained that I hold in greater importance.

5 to 7

I watched a very charming movie just now about love and relationships.

I have no idea if what the movie posits is what does happen in real life but the proposition is something that made me think. Would that life and love is as civilized as how the movie showed it. No crazy passion, no wild jealousy. Just love as it is. No lies no subterfuge.

Love happens. Different loves all valid. Love as a feeling and love as a commitment. It could be with one person, it could be with two or more. It is an idea that is counter to most societies and religion but it is an idea I am much intrigued with. Certainly not a movie that traditionalists and catolicos cerrados would like.

Watching the movie made me mellow, made me smile. Certain things happen sometimes for no reason. Certain things will end because it has run its course and sadness has replaced happiness and because you no longer feel right with the situation. I believe that nothing good ever comes from being forced.

Let everything be as it is. Like the river that empties into the ocean, it will find its way to where it should end.

It has been a long time since a movie has made me warm and mellow.

And of course having the Merovingian from the Matrix as one of the protagonists made it all the more interesting. Seriously, tres charmant et marvelieux.

Middle child

And i thought we were past the worst of the middle child syndrome. But no, over the past few days i learned that second son had an incomplete grade because of something really stupid and completely avoidable on his part.

After i bawled him out for his irresponsible actions, i set him to work on setting things right. And two nights ago i thought it was done. Only to find out earlier today when i asked him to check the status of his grade that NO, there were 2 more requirements he had not submitted due to a technical glitch and he had not backed up those 2 papers!

More sermon, more bawling. He was grounded until he redid those 2. In the end, i stayed behind to help him.

After finishing everything, i explained the consequences of his actions. We talked – i dont know if he learned anything from this fiasco.

If he gets kicked out, there will be other opportunities. It doesnt bother me as much but what really set me off was that the whole thing was avoidable. I could understand if it was beyond his abilities but no, it was very much within his capabilities except that he was just overconfident of his skills. Hubris, i told him. Look it up and learn the downfall of many notable men.

O said today’s incident reminded him of his younger brother – the middle child. And now he could understand his dad’s exasperation.

And now i understand why my ME classmate mentioned how his mom never stopped praying for him. I take comfort that this middle child classmate turned out well in his business, being the most successful among his siblings and married to a fine woman.

There will be hope for my second son.